标题：每日成长必知：关于人性的10个真相
Title: Daily Growth Must-Know: 10 Truths About Human Nature

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人活着不但要看清自己，也要了解别人，都说人性经不起考验，真的是这样么？下面这些送你⬇️
In life, we need to understand not only ourselves but also others. It is said that human nature cannot withstand tests, is this really the case? Here are the following 10 truths for you:

真相一：人可以防御他人的攻击，但对他人的赞美毫无抵抗力。
Truth 1: People can defend against attacks from others, but they have no resistance to praise from others.

每个人的内心深处都渴望被赞美、被认可，期待被肯定、被尊重，而这恰恰也是人性的软肋和弱点。有些赞美是出于客套、有些赞美是出于恭维。过度沉溺于别人的赞美，只能让自己生活在良言编织的虚幻世界里，渐渐迷失自我。感谢赞美、更要感恩批评，客观地对待赞美，清楚地认知自己，才是正确的心态。
Deep down in everyone’s heart, there is a desire to be praised, recognized, affirmed, and respected. This is precisely the soft spot and weakness of human nature. Some praise is out of politeness, and some is out of flattery. Becoming overly immersed in others’ praise can only cause one to live in an illusory world woven of kind words, gradually losing oneself. Appreciate praise, but be more grateful for criticism. Treat praise objectively, have a clear understanding of oneself, and that is the correct attitude.

真相二：理解自身的阴暗，是对付他人阴暗一面的最好方法。
Truth 2: Understanding one’s own darkness is the best way to deal with the dark side of others.

人生布满了虚伪和丑陋。然而，我们都没有权利去指责他人的不堪，因为我们本身就是如此。当我们开始理解黑暗，也就不再恐惧深夜来袭。当我们能够调和自身的黑暗面，尝试理解他人的黑暗面，也才能更好地保护自己。
Life is filled with hypocrisy and ugliness. However, we have no right to accuse others of their不堪, because we ourselves are like that. When we begin to understand the darkness, we no longer fear the night. When we can reconcile our own dark side and try to understand the dark side of others, we can better protect ourselves.

真相三：一个能够真正喜爱他人的人，自然会毫不怀疑地相信，他人也会喜爱自己。
Truth 3: A person who can truly love others will naturally believe without doubt that others will love them in return.

亲密和热情，逃避和冷漠，终究过的是两种不一样的人生。当我们给自己披上一层保护壳，自然隔绝了冰冷的世界和冷漠的人，但也拒绝了精彩的世界和温情的人。那些能够发自内心去喜爱他人的人，自然也能够得到别人的喜爱。人生，是一场伟大的冒险。那些敢于冒险的人，是勇敢的人，也会得到更大的奖赏。
Intimacy and enthusiasm lead to a different life than escape and indifference. When we put on a protective shell, we naturally isolate ourselves from the cold world and indifferent people, but we also reject the wonderful world and warm people. Those who can genuinely love others will naturally receive love from others. Life is a great adventure. Those who dare to take risks are brave and will receive greater rewards.

真相四：一个人越在意的地方，就是最令他自卑的地方。
Truth 4: The more a person cares about something, the more it makes them feel inferior.

一个人越是炫耀什么，说明他内心越是缺少什么；一个人越是注重什么，往往也是最让他自卑的地方。人最怕的就是，通过炫耀来提高自尊、来彰显优越。人，贵在寻求一种自我平衡。不炫耀、不自卑，才是对自己的认可。到了一定年龄，我们终将学会避开那些猛烈的讨好和喜欢，回归平静和淡然，自顾自地活成幸福的模样。
The more a person shows off something, the more it indicates that their inner self lacks it; the more a person focuses on something, it is often the thing that makes them feel most inferior. People are most afraid of using showing off to boost their self-esteem and demonstrate superiority. People should seek a sense of self-balance. Not showing off, not feeling inferior, is the recognition of oneself. At a certain age, we will eventually learn to avoid those intense讨好 and likes, return to calmness and indifference, and live a happy life on our own.

真相五：人性一个最特别的弱点就是：在意别人如何看待自己。
Truth 5: One of the most unique weaknesses of human nature is caring about how others view oneself.

小时候，为了老师的好评，努力做一个成绩优异的好孩子；长大后，为了父母的认可，按部就班地步入既定的人生轨迹；然而，别人的在意，就像是一座牢笼，紧紧地束缚了我们的手脚。当失落来袭，终究还是忍不住问自己：人到底为了什么而活？
As a child, in order to gain the teacher’s praise, we strive to be good students with excellent grades; as adults, to gain our parents’ approval, we follow the established path of life step by step; however, caring about others is like a cage, tightly binding our hands and feet. When disappointment strikes, we can’t help but ask ourselves: what are we living for?

人生唯一的真相就是，只有你自己才能决定自己的人生。你才是你自己人生航行的舵和帆。忠于时光、忠于内心，才能够获得心灵的自由，也才能邂逅别人看不到的光景。
The only truth in life is that only you can decide your own life. You are the rudder and sail of your own life journey. Be loyal to time and your heart to gain freedom for your soul and encounter sights that others cannot see.

真相六：人性只能被利益，不能被利用。
Truth 6: Human nature can only be driven by benefits, not used for personal gain.

人性的玄妙大抵在于，每个人都不喜欢被别人利用，但是，每个人都可以被利益驱动。所谓利者，义之和也。真正的利益，是建立在合作共赢的基础上。聪明的人懂得放下自我，彼此尊重；放下自私，彼此成就。
The mystery of human nature largely lies in the fact that everyone dislikes being used by others, but everyone can be driven by interests. The so-called interest is the harmony of righteousness. True interest is based on the foundation of win-win cooperation. Smart people know how to let go of self, respect each other; let go of selfishness, and achieve each other.

真相七：没有单纯、善良和真实，就没有伟大。
Truth 7: Without simplicity, kindness, and authenticity, there is no greatness.

孩子的眼中，世界总是美好与简单，纯粹与澄明的；成年人见过太多世故、经历了太多非难，那种单纯就成了难以回去的彼岸。豪华落尽见真淳，知世故而不世故，才是最高贵的成熟。单纯、善良和真实是道德底线，也是生而为人的最高价值。
In a child’s eyes, the world is always beautiful and simple, pure and clear; adults have seen too much worldly wisdom and experienced too many criticisms, making that simplicity a distant shore that is hard to return to. When the luxuries fade, the true essence is revealed. Knowing the worldly ways but not being worldly is the most noble form of maturity. Simplicity, kindness, and authenticity are the moral baseline and the highest value of being human.

真相八：人的本质并不是单个人所固有的抽象物，实际上，它是一切社会关系的总和。
Truth 8: Human nature is not an abstract thing inherent in a single person; in fact, it is the sum of all social relationships.

没有人是一座孤岛。人与人的缔结，才有了自我和他人的区别。生命之间的关照，让我们感受到爱和关怀、生活的光和温暖。人生不是一场独奏，而是交相辉映的和鸣。
No one is an isolated island. It is through the connections between people that the distinction between self and others arises. The care between lives allows us to feel love and care, the light and warmth of life. Life is not a solo performance, but a harmonious symphony.

真相九：生命就是关系，关系就是生命；要想改善生命，只需改善关系。
Truth 9: Life is about relationships, and relationships are life; to improve life, just improve relationships.

每个人都无法离开关系而独立存在：和父母的关系，决定了我们和周围人的关系。当我们能够接纳父母的不完美，才能成全新的人生；和爱人的关系，让我们学会了责任与包容。当我们能够全身心地去爱，也就学会了无私对待世界；和朋友的关系，让我们懂得了珍惜与尊重。
No one can exist independently of relationships: our relationship with our parents determines our relationship with the people around us. When we can accept our parents’ imperfections, we can embrace a new life; our relationship with our loved ones teaches us responsibility and tolerance. When we can love wholeheartedly, we also learn to treat the world selflessly; our relationship with friends teaches us to cherish and respect.

生命是不停流动的能量。想要改善生命，就去改善关系。好的关系，可以让我们不断成长、变成更好的人。
Life is a constantly flowing energy. To improve life, improve relationships. Good relationships can help us grow and become better people.

真相十：心灵的成熟过程，是持续不断地自我发现、自我探寻的过程，除非我们先了解自己，否则我们很难去了解别人
Truth 10: The process of spiritual maturity is a continuous journey of self-discovery and self-exploration. Unless we first understand ourselves, it is difficult for us to understand others.

认识自己是一生的课题。人的成熟和年龄无关。懂得自我审视、自我认知的人，也就形成了独特的自我，也在不断反思中去完善自我，才是最成熟的人。能看到自己不足的人，也就更能懂得别人的做法、理解别人的思想。
Understanding oneself is a lifelong subject. Maturity has nothing to do with age. Those who know how to self-examine and self-cognize form a unique self and continuously improve themselves in reflection are the most mature people. People who can see their own shortcomings are more capable of understanding others’ actions and thoughts.

结尾：人性并不丑陋，了解自己，也更加了解别人和这个世界，你生命里的每一天都值得报以最佳状态去迎接
Conclusion: Human nature is not ugly. By understanding ourselves, we can better understand others and the world. Every day of your life is worth welcoming with the best possible state.